Thursday, December 17, 2020

2020 Christmas Letter

Dear All,


We bring you Christmas and holiday greetings from Hong Kong for one final time.  As the year 2020 proved to be many things, it certainly called us to reflect.  Here are a few reflections on our year of 2020.



Preparing to play gong for senior class
Brenda is in the midst of her 31st, and perhaps final, year of teaching.  Both 2019-2020 and 2020-21 included navigating online and in-person teaching of the usual Junior English and AP Literature, as well as Spiritual Explorations and French 1 (after a 27 year hiatus!) Her own spiritual explorations eventually brought her to gong training and purchasing a 28” diameter symphonic gong.  Since October she has been offering weekly sound gong “baths” or sound sessions to friends, faculty, and even students at HKIS.   Additionally, she has reignited her passion for writing through daily journaling, poetry writing, and blog writing.  You can find her now as a blog contributor at
WWIATW.com.  Both gong and writing are pursuits she will likely continue from Green Bay, Wisconsin beginning June 2021.


Brent is completing his 7th year as Associate Principal of Teaching and Learning at Hong Kong International School and retiring his position after this year to do. . . whatever emerges as the right next step from Green Bay, WI.  He looks forward to a bit of a sabbatical from 28 years in education and dreams of sitting once again in the backyard, holding a cup of coffee in one hand and a book in the other.  He will be sorely missed as his impact on the HKIS Community has been huge.  He has been instrumental in creating a high school culture of trust and goodwill.  




Following his strongest year of high school, Adam (19 y.o.) graduated from HKIS in May 2020 at a ceremony that nearly wasn’t “in person”.  Thankfully, Hong Kong had lifted its Covid restrictions the week prior to graduation just enough for students to come back to campus to finish the year.  By July Adam was settled into his own two-bedroom apartment with two re-homed adult cats (renamed Yogi and Gaia) located only a five-minute walk from NWTC where he has spent a semester in a Health and Wellness Leadership Associate program.  Adam has found and holds a job at Spencer’s Gifts.  He would proudly tell you he now has several tattoos, continues to create intriguing and complex special effects makeup for Instagram (adammitchel2168), and owns and uses a home gym which rivals any you might find at a hotel.  We are very grateful for the support Adam has received from our dear friends Katie and Marty D. and Kelly G. 


Alec, now nearly 17 years old and a junior at HKIS has found the most recent year one in which “the cool kids” are talking to him.  While a bit baffled, he hopes to take his friend-making skills with him as he finishes his final year of high school in Green Bay (likely at Ashwaubenon High School where Brent taught for 17 years). Alec’s agreement to return to Green Bay for his senior year was key in our decision to return.  Alec’s claim to fame rests in the virtual world of gaming where he holds a place as being in the top 200 of a tournament in which hundreds of thousands of others played. In the summer Alec live-streamed his trackpad game playing and made several hundred dollars from subscribers/viewers. (He is quite an entertaining host.)  He continues to love music as evidenced by the statistic of 60,000 minutes of music played on his Spotify account in 2020.  Additionally, he is now in the Madrigal Singers (top choir) and Chamber Choir (club).  He recently had a few solo parts in different concerts.  Thankfully, the choir was able to put together an in-person concert in the fall after only a few weeks of having school in person.  We are proud of his great achievements and developing voice.  A new and fun experience for both mother and son is Alec’s enrolment in Brenda’s section of Junior English. 

While we have thoroughly enjoyed our lives abroad as expats in Asia, Brent and I have gotten rather good at listening to and following that “still small voice”.  And the voice says it is time to return home.  In a time of great upheaval and uncertainty, we have found ourselves centered and grounded and peaceful but longing for home, as well.  By God’s grace we are riding life’s wave to a new shore and a new story.  We will be bringing our cat Jigs with us but leaving our dog Rigby behind with a new family.  Political circumstances in Hong Kong also may impact both the city and education in significant ways, which makes our timing to return to Green Bay desirable. We very much look forward to reconnecting more often and in-person with friends and family in the Midwest and around the US. 


We live in unprecedented times.  These are times of both great sorrow and great potential.  Let us recall that Advent is an awaiting not only of a baby but also of a return of Christ to the world.  With Christ comes hope and love. Now is the time to look around, see what can or must be made new, and do our part to bring the love of Christ to all we encounter.  Through Christ we can re-create, re-pair, or re-see what has been broken, wounded, or forgotten to make all things new.


May you be blessed with grace and peace and love,


The Braykos



Monday, December 14, 2020

Love, Always Love

I find myself far more grateful than I used to be.  Perhaps it is a result of growing older or interacting with the teachings.  Perhaps it doesn’t matter why, just that it is.  Sharing daily gratitudes with a friend of mine has been a practice I have held now for about nine months.  My friend Larry and I go back about 25 years now, first as colleagues and then as life-long friends.  He lives in Wisconsin and I am in Hong Kong.  Each evening he writes to me just at the time I am waking, and so it has come to be that each morning I am in the habit of giving thanks. Over time, our final parting words became “Love, always love”.  It is something I hold dear in my heart as it embodies precisely the teachings of the Guides.  I hope a glimpse into our correspondence can inspire and release the gratitude in your own heart.  Love, always love, Brenda




July 29, 2020


Larry: Wednesday Gratitudes. 

Today I am grateful for another day. 

I am grateful for a quiet morning. 

Grateful for willingness. 

Grateful for dealing with life on life’s terms.

…And Love.



August 6, 2020


Brenda: Thursday gratitude. 

Today I am grateful for journals to take me down memory lane,new paths to take me down real lanes - nature, waterfalls!- and a soul finding its way to take me down my life’s best lane. 

And love, always love.


August 16, 2020




Brenda: Today I am grateful for a lovely hike at the Peak!  Beautiful views of the city and quality time with Brent.



August 25, 2020

Larry: Tuesday Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for caring friends.

Grateful for discernment.

Grateful for a little peace in the maelstrom of the storm.

Grateful for my health-care team.

For hope…

…and Love, always love.


August 27

Brenda: Today I am grateful for the dance, the song, the play that is this lived life but also the knowing of love and song and self that transcends it all.  For the release of the old and the dawn of the new. And for love, always and completely LOVE.


September 4, 2020 

Larry: Thursday Gratitudes

I am grateful for a good nights’ rest.

Today I am grateful for cooler weather.

Grateful for fragile beauty.

I am grateful for freedom from the past. 

…and Love.


September 11, 2020

Brenda: Friday morning gratitude.  For Another day as me, figuring out this life thing, God, the fluidity of time and the notion of creating from a sea of possibilities.  For Love as the unifying factor. For all my teachers and fellow travellers along the way.  Love, all is love. B


September 16, 2020

Larry: Thursday Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for another Thursday.

I am grateful for grace.

Grateful I have choices.

Grateful for the music of my heart.

Grateful I can still believe in dreams…

…and of course, Love, always Love.



September 23, 2020

Brenda: Wednesday gratitude.  

Today I am grateful for endings and beginnings - another trip around the sun complete.  A new opportunity to set goals, change, grow, learn, become.  I am grateful for all I have learned this past year, including gratitude, the nature of Self, the divinity in all, how to open up to creativity and how to better welcome the unfolding Universe as it is.  I am grateful for the new connections I have made in an otherwise seemingly disconnected world and for the steady cradle of good forever friends and family.  And for Love in all.  Love, always love, B


September 29, 2020

Larry: Monday Gratitudes

I am grateful for authenticity in all things and all people.

Grateful for the Autumn hush this morning.

I am grateful for the soul of friendship.

For phone calls and ZOOM and connection.

Grateful I am “holding my own” at this moment in time.

And I am grateful I am free to live and laugh and free to love, always free to love.


October 10, 2020

Brenda: Saturday night gratitude.  

For a magnificent day!  Quality time with a good friend online, a walk in a new spot ( Aberdeen Country Park), getting my gong! Dinner out with hubby and friends-amazing food, and ideas for how to start a new life in June.  Banner day. For all of this, much much gratitude. Love, always love.


October 16, 2020

Larry: Thursday and Friday Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for Sanctuary.

Grateful for sun and wind and fall.

Grateful for my Bellin team.

Grateful for homemade lentil stew.

For a porch visit from Stacy and a new sign for camp.

Today I am grateful for hope.

Grateful for Bear Camp.

Grateful for a dependable vehicle.

For choosing recovery today.

And for Love, always love.


October 25, 2020

Brenda: Sunday morning gratitude.  For good friends.  An amazing husband.  Children I love dearly.  Enough to eat.  Enough to do.  Enough to read and write.  Enough to learn.  Every day.  Love, always love, B


October 28, 2020

Larry: Wednesday Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for beauty in the world..

Grateful for social media (even with all its warts).

Grateful for good coffee.

Grateful for not giving up.

And Love, always love.


October 30, 2020

Brenda: Friday gratitude.  For the opportunity to hear choirs sing again!  (In masks one and all).  For the blessing of knowing amazing and kind loving people in India who are taking care of their impoverished families.  I am truly humbled by their love and dedication to children and education at this time.  For a new dawn and a new day. And for love alway always love, love, love.



November 4, 2020

Larry: Tuesday Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for a “best nights sleep in a while” kind of day.

Grateful for a sunny warm morning.

I am grateful I have a voice and that I GET to vote.

I am grateful for all those who serve.

Grateful for a grocery pick up today.

I am so grateful for friendships…

…and always grateful for love.


November 4, 2020

Brenda: 

An intention: On this day I choose to be a calm and loving energy for myself and others for my good and the good of all. I know who I am. I know what I am. I know how I serve.


November 9, 2020

Larry: Sunday Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for not giving up 5 minutes before the miracle.

I am grateful for good friends.

Grateful for the God of my understanding. 

Grateful for my Bellin team.

And Hope and Love.


November 9, 2020

Brenda: Monday morning gratitude. Today I am grateful for perfect weather, for a new day, and for that which I need finding me and coming to me at the perfect moment.  I am grateful my friends and family are well cared for both far and near. Love and hope, B


November 10, 2020

Larry: Monday Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for better sleep.

Grateful for my Bellin health care team.  

Grateful for cortisone injection today.

Grateful for the journey.

I am grateful to recognize the sacred in all beings.

Grateful for these beautiful fall days. 

Grateful for family and friends…

And Love…Love…Love.


November 10, 2020

Brenda: Gratitudes Tuesday.  For a slow day ahead with a leisurely morning, a cup of tea, a walk in nature.  for the Kite’s call over the jungle below and the freedom she inspires in my soul.  Gratitude for the connection I now have with all beings.  For the beauty in the journey and the dance of life, even the messy business creates a compelling story with which to engage and learn and grow through.  And for the lesson of the day that I know will come; it always does.  Love, always love.


November 11, 2020

Brenda: Wednesday morning gratitude. For the gentle moments, the joyous moments, the neutral moments, the synchronous moments, the laughing moments, the cathartic moments and all the moments in between.  And always the love-filled moments.



November 12, 2020

Larry: Wednesday Gratitudes (Veteran’s Day)

Today I am grateful for a great night’s sleep.

Coffee ZOOM with Nikki this morning.

Grateful for all who have served.

I am grateful for my morning coffee.

Grateful for a life in recovery.

And Love, always Love.


November 14, 2020

Brenda: Saturday morning gratitude.  For another day as me, in this body with these people and these lessons being learned.  For knowing the divine in all.  For teachers and guides both here and beyond.  For love, always love.


November 17, 2020

Larry: Monday Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for Sweet Sleep.

Grateful for another Monday…my favorite day.

Grateful for a beautiful morning.

Grateful for good coffee.

For music and poetry and prayer.

And for Love, Monday love.  


November 26, 2020

Brenda: It is Thanksgiving here on this Thursday morning.  I am grateful for this spot -looking out over Tai Tam Bay; this moment - peaceful and calm for me; this Hong Kong - vibrant, welcoming, diverse ; these people - family, friends, acquaintances, kind strangers; Rigby - Mr Unconditional Love - spending his final holiday with us; Jigs - also Mr Unconditional Love - who perches his loving energy and radiates; Muse- my Gong who is leading the way to a new horizon; my teachers - and there have been many; and love, always love.


November 29, 2020

Brenda: Sunday morning gratitude.  For love and church and dog and cat and good night’s sleep, unexpected laughter, a cool breeze, a nice walk, good check up with the doctor.  For daily Guidance and the trust to move in alignment with it.  For alignment to love, not fear.  Always love, B


Dec. 4, 2020

Larry: Friday Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for a Boom Shakalaka day.

Grateful for Friday Morning ZOOM.

Grateful for a sunny, warm, December morning.

Grateful for some success decluttering.

I am grateful for hope and faith and love.


December 5, 2020

Brenda: Saturday morning gratitude.  For a nice, slow, tender Saturday morning.  For my AP Lit kids.  For the promise of Christmas. For Christmas movies. For love, always love.


December 10,  2020

Larry: Wednesday Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for a beautiful December day.

Grateful I can pay my bills.

Grateful for Wednesday Morning Writers.

Gratitude for truth in my day.

Grateful for Living Clean meeting.

Grateful for the healing and grace in recovery.

And Love…always love.



And what are you grateful for today, dear readers?

Love, always love,

Brenda


Sunday, August 2, 2020

Time, Now, and Infinity

Let’s just say there IS no such thing as Time.  That Time is just an idea - a net we created for ourselves while swimming; we placed ourselves within this safe net long ago. 

Let’s just say that we live inside this ocean with no end.  In this ocean we can create whatever we want.  And let’s just say that at one point humans created this net, swam into the net so that it surrounded them and then stayed there.  It provided a safe boundary for them in this vast ocean. They liked their net. They stayed there for so many generations that a time came when a generation forgot they themselves had created the net and they no longer knew that it didn’t really need to be there. They and their children and their children’s children forgot they could quite easily swim over or under or even through the net to the infinite possibilities that lay beyond their net in the infinite ocean.

This net - Time, remember - created all kinds of trouble for them. . .  restrictions, really.  It crowded and controlled them.  They became exasperated at how restricting it was and constantly complained about it, but no one could see beyond the net they had made for themselves and generation after generation agreed to the idea of the net fencing them in.

Now those swimming beyond the net in the infinite ocean noticed those caught in their own net.   And although it was fine for the netted ones to stay inside the net if they chose to, it was no longer fine for them to have no awareness of what was available beyond the net. How could they get the netted ones to even SEE the net in the first place?  How could they convince the netted ones that they themselves had constructed the net, which was truly unnecessary now. How could they help the netted ones then BELIEVE in the possibility of something beyond it - something filled with that which was beyond their imagination?  The infinite possibilities that were the ocean itself?  The water was indeed everywhere. 

Now the net is not evil nor is it good.  It simply creates another way of being that is restrictive to the netted ones.  As you may know, inside the net it seems to have gotten quite polluted, frenzied, frenetic really.  In an effort long ago to create something organised and safe, now those netted ones have outgrown the need for the net. If only they knew that they could quite easily swim above or below or through to reach the infinite possibilities of the ocean where there is no net!  Realise, where there is no net, there is no net to contend with - it does not exist.

So now let’s call the infinite ocean of possibilities the Eternal Now.  That water that is everywhere in the ocean is the Eternal Now of infinite possibilities.  And it may be easier to recognise that the ocean that is the Eternal Now is above or below or even surrounding the net.  But is it not also inside the net?  Those caught inside the net are they not ALSO swimming in the Infinite Now?

And are we not the netted ones? Are we not the ones who cannot fathom the Infinite Now in this very moment we swim inside our polluted, crowded, frenetic net?  And won’t we accept the assistance of those who would release us from our ancient and restrictive net? For the Infinite itself is present in this very moment in this very place.  The Infinite is present within and around and through You in this ever present Now.  And the possibilities are, indeed, endless.  

Image credit: "Muguraan" by Hani Amir is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 2.0 

Thursday, July 30, 2020

Kolkata, India 2018

Forgive me if you've seen this.  I think it got caught as a draft and I did want this to be seen.  Enjoy some revelations from two years ago.  

India 2018


I never dreamed I would go to Kolkata.  In March, the Principal and I took 18 juniors and seniors in high school to Kolkata, India, on the Children of Kolkata Interim.


Here are components of a reflection I wrote a week later.


So, what do I make of my time in Kolkata after being home a week now?  I’ve really not continued to process it as much as I hoped so this may serve that purpose.


OPENNESS: I found that I was able to open myself to others on a level that I hadn’t before.  A human to human level; perhaps even a level that acknowledges the Christ in another.  Connecting to Sheela (a girl cared for by the Missionaries of Charity) and many of the other girls through touch, smiles, eye contact, and intention did that.  All pretenses that are put up automatically as a part of a developed world dropped away and all that was left was one human being with another and love.


LOVE: Love as something big and bright and all encompassing.  Love that doesn’t need anything tangible back but that connects and is resonant with another.  


CONNECTEDNESS: Connectedness with my fellow chaperone David and the students on the trip.  Connectedness with certain girls at Shanti-Dan and other volunteers: Donna and Josephina. Connectedness to the Khans: Mohin and Nazim. Connectedness with people on the street that we saw and passed by - just by smiling and giving real eye contact.  At the beginning of the trip I was so enamored with James’ ability to connect to kids and adults alike - strangers- that almost instantly became friends.  How did he do it?  I learned that he simply opened himself to their humanity and that is all it took.


PERSPECTIVE:  It is good to know that the life I live isn’t the only way to live life.  Somehow this real life is less real than that life.  Now that I have witnessed and felt what I have witnessed, felt and known, I can always return to that Truth or live in that Truth.  I only need to choose to do so.  Look each person in the eye and see the real him or her, the human beneath the pretense.  Be real.  Be seen.  Be open.  Be connected. Be.


Developing world - Kolkata:  I wasn’t horrified by what I saw.  I didn’t feel sorry for people.  I acknowledged their strife for day to day living and I know I can’t know what it is to be them, BUT I was actually impressed with the way the society is set up to support the poor, the sustainability already in place.  These are things like un-fired pottery for cups, bags made out of old newspapers, street markets that needed no extra plastic, easily accessible (albeit gross) public toilets, public baths, and public water supply (pumps). Public transportation/transportation for rich and poor (bikes, walking, Uber, bus, tuk tuk, rickshaw, taxi (1953?)), burning your own trash, taking your recycling to a place, spices sold in jars, cloth sold for sewing, virtually no packaging to clutter things up.


Developing world life - to be poor - Kolkata:  This is certainly just by observation, right?  But homeless people slept on mats or cots or in their rickshaw on the side of the road, bathed, got water, food, toilet, all there.  People talked to each other and problem-solved together.  No cell-phones to separate them from their fellow human beings.  Those with no one might be “lucky enough” to be taken in my Missionaries of Charity.  There, while residents own absolutely nothing, they are cared for.  They receive a bed, food to eat, clothing to wear, medical attention, exercise, physical therapy, education (for the girls at Shanti-Dan).  From volunteers like us they receive additional attention, kindness, and love.  This is what it looks like to take money out of the system altogether and simply pay attention to the needs of others and how what you have can fulfill someone else’s needs.  Amazing.  This is not to say that life isn’t hard, probably often lonely, perhaps hopeless for some.  That I cannot say.


Mother Theresa’s tomb:  I want to give this a bit of attention as it is something that has stuck with me.  The place was surprisingly powerful.  Truly powerful.  The heartbeat of Kolkata, I called it.  There was an energy there that overwhelmed me.  I can’t say that I identified it as Love, actually.  But it was Energy (with a capital E) and it was Real (with a capital R).  I wanted to cry, really.  The kind of overwhelming, powerful emotion - crying - that comes to you when you’ve just learned someone you loved has died.  And you know that they are gone but still with you.  Like that.  A powerful presence was in that room where her tomb was.  And it was not present for me in the chapel just one floor up.  I shall not forget that.  I have encountered other sacred spaces - this definitely counts as one!


Saturday, June 27, 2020

A Prayer for the Planet


May you know who you are in truth.*
You are one, though you imagine you are many.
You are whole, though you think you are broken.
You are vast, though the worldly illusion would have you be small.


May you know what you are in truth.*
You are the breath of God animated in bone and mind.
You are both a grain of sand and endless beach.
You are stardust created and recreated,
A flower from a seed, a seed from a flower.
You are a body from a soul, a soul from a body.
You are a beacon of light even in a great darkness.
You are an aspect of the Divine experiencing itself in form.*


May you know how you serve in truth.* 
No matter your form, hue, history - you serve.
“Be still and know that I am God.”1
Be still and know that I Am.
Be still and Know.
Be Still.
Be. 
In simply BEING you serve.
In Being, one act of compassion generates another.
In Being, one change of heart lights the way.
In Being, joy creates joy, love creates love. 


May you know you are free.*
It is easy enough to get lost 
When playing a game like hide and seek.
Are you lost in the illusion?2
Let those who are already free show you-
A flower in the the Spring
A curious toddler
A grand and ancient tree
A sky now blue - now gray - now blue again.


You have come. You have come. You have come.*
Cast off the fear. Be lifted.
Cast off the mask. Know and be known.
Watch the skies clear. 
Reimagine broken systems and structures.
Witness "justice roll down like waters and righteousness like a mighty stream."3
Be amazed as all things are made new.
“Your kingdom come, your will be done,
On earth as it is in heaven.”4 


Trust Life, my friends, and the breeze will feel cool against your cheek. 


Brenda Brayko 
June 2020

*Adapted from Paul Selig’s Beyond the Known: Realization.  “I know who you are in truth. I know what you are in truth. I know how you serve in truth. You are free. You are free. You are free. You have come. You have come. You have come.”
1 Psalms 46:10. The Bible.
2 From Hinduism
3 Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. 
4 Mark 6:10. New International Version Bible.